*--You ain't the worse!!!--*

Do you feel defeated, depressed or unhappy?

When I first starting coaching clients, I thought people would seek my help because they desired to develop a healthy relationship with themselves and other people. Initially, I was surprised to learn their main objective was not love, but money. Like most people, they thought money would be the answer that solved all their problems. If they had more of it, they would live happily ever after and never have a care in the world.

Not only would money solve their problems, but it would also take away the pain they felt inside. Yes, being financially stable has its many advantages, but if you struggle with negative feelings about who you are and no longer believe in yourself, then all the money in the world will not purchase the inner peace you are looking for.

We often develop our individual worth from other people’s opinion of us. In a world full of imperfect people, this is a serious mistake. Too often we hear how we are not good enough and could never measure up. After a while, many people start believing what they hear. They begin to feel life is overwhelming and downright hard. Emotionally, these people are not healthy. They often struggle with depression, anxiety, loneliness and have an inner sadness that is difficult to explain.

From my experience working with people from all over the world, this problem is global. However, there is a solution. You are not meant to live a life of hardship and pain. You can begin to love yourself from the inside out. Here are three simple steps to start you on this transformational journey.

Step 1: You need to take complete ownership of your life. No matter how difficult your circumstances appear to be, you have the inner power and ability to embrace positive change.

Step 2: You can control your emotions and change your negative self-image. Part of this is realizing your individual worth is never defined by the thoughts and opinions of others. Do not let their negative actions change your inner knowledge that you have unlimited potential.

Step 3: Stop blaming others! You are the authority of your life and responsible for your personal happiness. Positive change will never occur when you place blame on anyone or anything for your misfortune and how you feel inside. Being personally accountable for every aspect of your life will allow you to take control and make the changes you seek. This includes the ability to leave situations that are dangerous and unhealthy.

A new found freedom will occur once you take ownership of your life by embracing the possibilities, no longer listening to the negative opinion of others or placing blame on anyone or anything for your situation. You are now what I call an empowered person and well on your way to loving yourself so you can experience life as it was meant to be. Magnificent! - See more at: http://familyshare.com/how-to-love-yourself-from-the-inside-out-overcome-depression-anxiety-and-self-defeating-behavior-by-taking-ownership-of-your-life!

*----- "Death is a perfect insult."----*

"Never judge on how I died, but how I lived m life before I died, because in the faraway land, it shall also determine where I shall be for ever."
Hogan Cooperland.

To those who lost their lives in the ill fated plane carrying the corpse of late Agagu. How a man dies does not ever matter.

Yes, how tragic the reality of death could be to so man of us, especially the death of a loved one. I have come through life to see people, scared of death, and the question that comes to my mind is 'why?' Why are they scared?
Would you be scared of something you very certain would happen to you?
Wouldn't you rather prepare for it to face it head-long as it comes?
Maybe the rather pertinent question is: 'is death real?' Yes, I'd say if I am to answer the question in haste. Perhaps it might seem so hash to say directly that we were born to die and live again in the world beyond, which is best described b the Holy Bible as 'Eternity' and of course if would be the longest life a man can ever live, then it should also defend the existence of man.

Hence, man was made for eternity, man was born to die.

Following this holy truth therefore, it does not matter in an way how a man dies. What matters and shall ever matter is how he lived his life here on earth and shall determine where he shall spend his life here after. The reality of this truth has transcended me into that realm of inner strength and put.

I am not afraid to die.

Why should I? When I know for sure that we must all certainly die? As the age of a man is chronologically numbers mere, so is the age of a man when he dies. And should I sit down worrying my head on how my burial should look like when am gone. Who cares about in eternity?

Thank God for Jesus, who died that we might be saved. Who has gone to prepare a place for us, that where He is there we might be also. Who cares about death where there is such a promise like this, and although I , may not be able to lay grips on questions like why am here, why was I made to die even in the most uncertain way and a lot of others, yet would the certainty of His promise satisfy me.

There is some truth to the old saying, “There are only two things you can count on in life: death and taxes.” Everyone experiences death. Death and dying are an inevitable part of human life.

Some people know ahead of time when their death will occur. Terminal illnesses, when diagnosed ahead of time, allow a person to set his or her affairs in order, make relationships right, and say goodbye to loved ones. In these cases, every person involved has a chance to gradually adjust and make peace with death, as much as possible. However, not everyone has this chance. Many deaths occur suddenly. Death can, and often does, strike without warning.

No one is promised tomorrow. The only thing we can count on is today.

"Death is a perfect insult."

Many people try to be numb to this suffering. In the rush of details that fill our life, we may find temporary distraction. In the beliefs that we hold, we look for consolation. But turning away from the reality of Love Itself, even through distraction or belief, is turning away from the only possibility of going beyond our mortal predicament.

Somehow, we must receive the "insult" and still grow in love.

There are times when the loss of a loved one brings us face to face with this starkness. Then our strategies of distraction and consolation no longer work. We feel again the raw fact that has always been our situation. Even the many small endings in our life (and the beginnings as well) remind us that no thing and no one will last, no matter how much we love them.

Whatever we believe about death (and what happens after death), its inescapable nature is not in debate. But knowing that death is a universal requirement does not end our predicament - it only pushes our need to understand what life is all about, what its purpose is, to the fore.

On Love and Death, Cooperland also said: "Love is a great knowledge in human intimacies, but it is a terrible knowledge, simultaneously. Love moves you beyond the usual insult of mortality, but it takes place in the context of mortality. At the same time that love relieves you, in some respects, of the insult of mortality, it also makes the suffering of mortality more profound.

"So, to love any one is a terrible "problem" - friend, intimate, child, mother, father. To love at all is to be confronted with the terrible nature of mortality."

"With great difficulty! In My opinion, death should not be faced. Death should be transcended, like everything else. When you become involved in your mind with death, making much of death and thinking about death, then you become more and more worried.

"You think that because you are sixty-seven, death is much more important than when you were twenty-five, or fifty even, and it is not true. You should be sensitive to the possibility of death even from your youth or your childhood.

"The knowledge of death, however it may come to you through life's experience, should become the wisdom of ego-transcending practice - because you understand that death is not any different from all the other limited conditions of existence."

Death is utterly acceptable to consciousness and life. There has been endless time of numberless deaths, but neither consciousness nor life has ceased to arise. The felt quality and cycle to death has not modified the fragility of flowers, even the flowers within the human body.

Therefore one's understanding of consciousness and life must be turned to That Utter, Inclusive Truth, That Clarity and Wisdom, That Power and Untouchable Gracefulness, That One and Only Reality this evidence suggests.

One must cease to live in a superficial and divided way, seeking and demanding consciousness and life in the present apparent form, avoiding and resisting what appears to be the end of consciousness and life in death.